What should you expect of a three year old?

Tonight my son was in his bath, and he had picked up a small bottle of body wash, I instructed him to please put it down, he didn't listen and proceeded to open it, so I said "uhuhuh" with a warning type tone (you know that tone of voice mommy's possess) and he put it down. Then I proceeded to tell him that we don't play with that and he stuck his tiny finger to his mouth and said "shhhh!" I couldn't believe my son told me to hush, so I asked him not to do that and he did it again three times so I let the water out of the tub and proceeded to get him out of the bath telling him he wasn't being very nice. He threw a fit, so I walked away and told him when he was ready to I would pick him up and get him dressed. So of course I finally got him dress and explained how little boys should be toward their parents and he hushed me again. Long story short, was I too hard on my son. Should I just of ignored it? I feel so betrayed I stay at home all day with my son (not easy for me) spend lots of time with love and praises for him and he shushes me. Maybe I should of just ignored it what do you think. If you don't your child, do they show you as much respect and children of parents who do . I don't him, but sometimes wonder if I am doing the right thing by him. When do I get the respect I deserve?